Please excuse me as I stumble trying to convey my thoughts on this subject. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking over the last couple of days about the terminology of birthmother vs. first mother. I first heard the phrase “first mother” as I was perusing the web over the weekend and I LOVE it. I like how it sounds. I like what it implies. To our family the birth/first mother’s role encompasses so much more than merely the pregnancy and birth. Someone once told me that when you love someone, a part of you will always love them and they will forever have a place in your heart. Just as the first mother will always love her child, we, as a family, will always love her for role she plays in our family. I am humbled daily to think about the legacy of love the first mother passes on to her child and eternally grateful to someday have the opportunity to add to the legacy, as the second mother.